Society shames individuality. We are encouraged to be ourselves, but with certain requirements. If our goal is to achieve acceptance, failure is inevitable. When we strive to be accepted, we are essentially demanding perfection from ourselves. By living under these unrealistic expectations, we lose ourselves and become less and less of an individual.
Realistically, we are shamed for what makes us individuals. In his essay, 'Me Talk Pretty One Day', David Sedaris writes, "How often is one asked what he loves in this world... How often is one asked and then publicly ridiculed for his answer?" (para. 13). In this quote, Sedaris questions the systematics of society's behavior. A feigned interest becomes belittlement. In this response we correct our behavior and seek refuge in popular consensus. An attempt of self- expression results in humility.
Our reactions to humiliation must be adjusted. As a solution, we must structure ourselves. This can be done through laughter. Yes. Laughter. Why take every opinion so seriously?! By finding positively in discomfort, our skin gets a little thicker. Not only are we able to laugh off the "haters" but we also are able to push ourselves; not to perfection but self-improvement rather. We eliminate the savage desire to fit in by becoming the best versions of ourselves. The best way to successfully maintain individuality is to just lighten up!
Thursday, December 10, 2015
Wednesday, December 9, 2015
Into Adulthood
The teenage years. You're either too old to participate in the activities you once loved, or too young to make grown- up decisions. We often feel confined, like wild wolves in a cage-- except this enclosure is actually called high school. Don't get me wrong-- I believe this institution is completely necessary, despite its negative connotations. Becoming a well- rounded citizen determines how we function in society, and helps us to decide which path we'd like to take in life. Our attitude towards life or adulthood itself however yet been matured. Therefore, we must not rush ourselves out of adolescence.
Our education gives us a taste of what career path we may pursue. With so many options, we stress so much about choosing a career path that we will posses for the rest of our lives. Our provincial mindsets do not allow us to see beyond the false pretense that the "destination" is more important than the journey itself.
In his article 'Let Teenagers Try Adulthood', Leon Botstein writes, "By the time those who graduate from high school go on to college and realize what is really at stake in becoming an adult, too many opportunities have been lost and too much time has been wasted" (para. 5). In this quote, Botstein claims that in dreaming of adulthood, we are wasting our time. Similarly, I believe that in yearning for the future, we are missing the present. There is nothing wrong with having apparitions, however.
Because we are young, we have more than enough time to both discover our passion(s) and dream of a life beyond adolescence. We are constantly growing and making new discoveries, therefore learning more and more about what makes us happy. A sheltered childhood acts as a safety net to catch us when we become lost in our pursuit of happiness. Life is truly about the journey, not a destination. If we are not able to recognize this during out transition into adulthood, we will spend our lives in disappointment, always awaiting something more.
Take what life offers you, and enjoy the ride; beginning to end.
Our education gives us a taste of what career path we may pursue. With so many options, we stress so much about choosing a career path that we will posses for the rest of our lives. Our provincial mindsets do not allow us to see beyond the false pretense that the "destination" is more important than the journey itself.
In his article 'Let Teenagers Try Adulthood', Leon Botstein writes, "By the time those who graduate from high school go on to college and realize what is really at stake in becoming an adult, too many opportunities have been lost and too much time has been wasted" (para. 5). In this quote, Botstein claims that in dreaming of adulthood, we are wasting our time. Similarly, I believe that in yearning for the future, we are missing the present. There is nothing wrong with having apparitions, however.
Because we are young, we have more than enough time to both discover our passion(s) and dream of a life beyond adolescence. We are constantly growing and making new discoveries, therefore learning more and more about what makes us happy. A sheltered childhood acts as a safety net to catch us when we become lost in our pursuit of happiness. Life is truly about the journey, not a destination. If we are not able to recognize this during out transition into adulthood, we will spend our lives in disappointment, always awaiting something more.
Take what life offers you, and enjoy the ride; beginning to end.
Thursday, November 19, 2015
Walt Whitman- Slang response questions
1. Slang is particularly American to Walt Whitman because he believes the English language is a by-product of combining cultures.
2. Whitman discusses language in his opening paragraph to lay a foundation for his essay. He states his opinions of language and how it has developed into something so magnificently complex. He concludes paragraph one by conveying that our words and expressions bring liveliness to our speech.
3.Slang is "lawless" because it disrupts traditional format. There is no specified place, definition, or part of speech for slang. For example, swears can be used in place of a noun, to describe something, or as an interjection.
4. Whitman uses metaphors to describe slang as " a mighty potentate" that enters "even the stateliest ceremonies like one of Shakespeare's clowns". He also uses a metaphor to describe slang as a "fermentation" or "eructation" or the "old world mythologies". I believe his first metaphor is more effective than the second because it provides the reader with a more pleasant connotation than that of a "belch". The first metaphor is also more fitting because it adds excitement and strengthens his cause to of using slang.
5. Rather than using a series of abstract metaphors, Whitman makes his argument "plainer" by citing exact examples and definitions of everyday slang.
6. Whitman relates slang and mythology by claiming both "attempt to escape bad literalism" throughout the ages.
7. Paragraphs 6-10 show that slang is contingent upon location, time, tastes, needs, and ties. They form within local communities, disperse, and resinate; thus contributing to the "melting pot" that is our English language.
8. I believe Whitman's opinion of American humorists strengthens his argument. Slang adds camaraderie. Philologists are considered dry and sacrifice their humor as they conform to grammatical norms.
9. The tone of this essay is genuine, imaginative, lively, and lighthearted. The final paragraph incorporates all of these descriptions as seen throughout his essay.
10. This essay reflects Whitman's poetry in terms of tone. His works are free spirited and break traditional molds of literature. An example of this would be the poem "Pioneers! O Pioneers!", calling young generations to seize their youth and pursue adventure.
11. Whitman defines slang as an "escape from bald literalism" (paragraph 2). I can apply this to my own writing by not conforming to the literary norms that govern how I would typically write. By avoiding rigid format and using simpler words or phrases I can create more genuine works.
12. I support the view on American Slang by Tom Dalzell. Although teachers, parents and other figures of authority can monitor the clothes we put on our bodies or the hair/ makeup fads we try, they cannot oppress the thought process of our generation. Slang holds deep roots within our individuality. We are able to express ourselves through movement, music, and poetry. Authority cannot patrol the culture that shapes our generation.
2. Whitman discusses language in his opening paragraph to lay a foundation for his essay. He states his opinions of language and how it has developed into something so magnificently complex. He concludes paragraph one by conveying that our words and expressions bring liveliness to our speech.
3.Slang is "lawless" because it disrupts traditional format. There is no specified place, definition, or part of speech for slang. For example, swears can be used in place of a noun, to describe something, or as an interjection.
4. Whitman uses metaphors to describe slang as " a mighty potentate" that enters "even the stateliest ceremonies like one of Shakespeare's clowns". He also uses a metaphor to describe slang as a "fermentation" or "eructation" or the "old world mythologies". I believe his first metaphor is more effective than the second because it provides the reader with a more pleasant connotation than that of a "belch". The first metaphor is also more fitting because it adds excitement and strengthens his cause to of using slang.
5. Rather than using a series of abstract metaphors, Whitman makes his argument "plainer" by citing exact examples and definitions of everyday slang.
6. Whitman relates slang and mythology by claiming both "attempt to escape bad literalism" throughout the ages.
7. Paragraphs 6-10 show that slang is contingent upon location, time, tastes, needs, and ties. They form within local communities, disperse, and resinate; thus contributing to the "melting pot" that is our English language.
8. I believe Whitman's opinion of American humorists strengthens his argument. Slang adds camaraderie. Philologists are considered dry and sacrifice their humor as they conform to grammatical norms.
9. The tone of this essay is genuine, imaginative, lively, and lighthearted. The final paragraph incorporates all of these descriptions as seen throughout his essay.
10. This essay reflects Whitman's poetry in terms of tone. His works are free spirited and break traditional molds of literature. An example of this would be the poem "Pioneers! O Pioneers!", calling young generations to seize their youth and pursue adventure.
11. Whitman defines slang as an "escape from bald literalism" (paragraph 2). I can apply this to my own writing by not conforming to the literary norms that govern how I would typically write. By avoiding rigid format and using simpler words or phrases I can create more genuine works.
12. I support the view on American Slang by Tom Dalzell. Although teachers, parents and other figures of authority can monitor the clothes we put on our bodies or the hair/ makeup fads we try, they cannot oppress the thought process of our generation. Slang holds deep roots within our individuality. We are able to express ourselves through movement, music, and poetry. Authority cannot patrol the culture that shapes our generation.
Tuesday, November 17, 2015
The Intimacy of Language
Often times, as writers, we tend to use pretentious diction in order to persuade our audience under false pretenses. We use ready made phrases and lengthy- vocab to trick readers or listeners, assuming they will take us more seriously. Of course, this is not a realistic reflection of how the human mind works. Amy Tan is her article "Mother Tongue" states that we profess our imperfect thoughts in imperfect phrases.
Tan distinguishes two types of audiences: unfamiliar, and intimate. When addressing strangers, we tend to express ourselves in a manner that may earn us more respect. In comparison, Tan recalls what it was like having a mother who speaks "broken english". Her mother was not given the respect and attention she deserved merely because her English speaking skills were limited. I believe we subconsciously avoid this issue by over compensating with heavy diction that merely complicates what we are trying to convey.
The author implores her readers to write with passion, intent, imagery, and flow. She suggests picturing an audience for anything you write. To blur the line between our intimate and unfamiliar audiences, we should do as follows:
1.) Write simply
2.) Be straightforward
3.) Be concise
Speak what is on your mind, write with conviction and picture your ideal audience. Express your inner thoughts in the most imperfectly perfect way you know how. There is nothing "broken" about our language; something so raw; so simple; so intimate, as our natural speech is a beautiful thing.
Tan distinguishes two types of audiences: unfamiliar, and intimate. When addressing strangers, we tend to express ourselves in a manner that may earn us more respect. In comparison, Tan recalls what it was like having a mother who speaks "broken english". Her mother was not given the respect and attention she deserved merely because her English speaking skills were limited. I believe we subconsciously avoid this issue by over compensating with heavy diction that merely complicates what we are trying to convey.
The author implores her readers to write with passion, intent, imagery, and flow. She suggests picturing an audience for anything you write. To blur the line between our intimate and unfamiliar audiences, we should do as follows:
1.) Write simply
2.) Be straightforward
3.) Be concise
Speak what is on your mind, write with conviction and picture your ideal audience. Express your inner thoughts in the most imperfectly perfect way you know how. There is nothing "broken" about our language; something so raw; so simple; so intimate, as our natural speech is a beautiful thing.
Sunday, November 15, 2015
The "F Word"
Prejudice acts as an obstacle for all citizens nationwide. Language, religion, and ethnicity are not the only factors that contribute to discrimination-- one's name can act as a barrier, too. In her article, "The 'F Word'", Firoozeh Dumas discusses the challenges of possessing a foreign name and finding an identity in America. Using humor, Dumas develops her argument by citing examples of similes, sarcasm, and irony.
Dumas informs her readers of the barrier a foreign name can produce by using smilies. She writes, "My first and last name together generally served the same purpose as a high brick wall," (740). In this quotation, the author uses a simile to represent how much of an obstacle her full name can be. The image of a "high brick wall" shows the reader how difficult it is be for others to see past the racial sigma tied to her name.
The author uses sarcasm to bring humor to her argument. She tells a story of her determination in finding a new, americanized name. Her father suggests "Fifi"as a shortened version of "Firoozeh". Dumas' response is as following: "Had I a special affinity for French poodles or been considering career in prostitution, I would've gone with the name," (740). This vignette shows the struggle of an Iranian girl just trying to fit in. The sarcastic come back brings comic relief to her argument, creating a more amiable mood for readers to experience, enjoy, and remember.
Lastly, Dumas uses irony to prove her point. She writes of the time when she first began sixth grade with her new name. Without a foreign name, she becomes privy to the racial prejudice felt by her peers. "This meant that I was often privy to their real feelings about this 'damn I-raynians'" (740). Her classmates are unaware of her ethnic roots while she is in possession of an American name.
Comedy proves to be an effective means to persuasion by allowing readers to feel a more positive connection with the writer. It builds trust and credibility, which are two key elements of persuasion. Firoozeh Dumas discusses how difficult it is to overcome the racial barrier with a foreign name. This is done by including similes, sarcasm, and irony to add comic relief to her argument.
Dumas informs her readers of the barrier a foreign name can produce by using smilies. She writes, "My first and last name together generally served the same purpose as a high brick wall," (740). In this quotation, the author uses a simile to represent how much of an obstacle her full name can be. The image of a "high brick wall" shows the reader how difficult it is be for others to see past the racial sigma tied to her name.
The author uses sarcasm to bring humor to her argument. She tells a story of her determination in finding a new, americanized name. Her father suggests "Fifi"as a shortened version of "Firoozeh". Dumas' response is as following: "Had I a special affinity for French poodles or been considering career in prostitution, I would've gone with the name," (740). This vignette shows the struggle of an Iranian girl just trying to fit in. The sarcastic come back brings comic relief to her argument, creating a more amiable mood for readers to experience, enjoy, and remember.
Lastly, Dumas uses irony to prove her point. She writes of the time when she first began sixth grade with her new name. Without a foreign name, she becomes privy to the racial prejudice felt by her peers. "This meant that I was often privy to their real feelings about this 'damn I-raynians'" (740). Her classmates are unaware of her ethnic roots while she is in possession of an American name.
Comedy proves to be an effective means to persuasion by allowing readers to feel a more positive connection with the writer. It builds trust and credibility, which are two key elements of persuasion. Firoozeh Dumas discusses how difficult it is to overcome the racial barrier with a foreign name. This is done by including similes, sarcasm, and irony to add comic relief to her argument.
Friday, November 13, 2015
I Believe
One of my biggest pet peeves have always been hypocrisy. In order to avoid becoming a hypocrite, I am very cautious of my words not contradicting my actions. I strive to actively practice my convictions. Therefore, I believe in leading by example.
My parents have been divorced for as long as I can remember. Their feigned relationship and individual dysfunctions caused me to question the idea of morals or if such principles even existed. The guidance they gave me felt artificial as their words of advice were negated by acts of contradiction.
My dad always taught me to stick up for myself, while my mom believed in being a peacemaker. Actions speak louder than words, however. My mother is argumentative and quick to pick a fight. My father is highly submissive and shies away from conflict. Just as any child, I wanted to believe the best in my parents. Because of my innocence, I had not been able to recognize the hypocrisy I was subject to.
My hectic life was forever changed when my younger sister was born. I was able to the best big sister I could be by acting as a steady role model. I did this by leading by example. Through my actions, I worked to instill principles of sincerity, peace, and confidence within her. I know now that I can provide her with the guidance I never had.
I believe in the importance of being a good role model. I know my words posses the most power when I act in accordance with them. A moral code is tainted by contradictory thoughts and actions, therefore, we must practice what we preach.
Wednesday, November 4, 2015
Home
A typical struggle of the human condition is finding one's identity. We long to find a place to call home in order to establish a sense of security. It is easy to make biased assumptions of others state of being. The feeling of loneliness is not confined to immigrants, orphans, and social misfits; we make biased judgements based on stereotypes.
I, a white female, come from a household of two well to- do parents-- both doctors. My one sibling is my companion and best friend. From the outside looking in, my life must be perfect. I have a roof over my head, eat four meals a day, attend a private school and stay involved in events within the community of East Providence. What others cannot see is the crumbling relationship between my parents, my Type- A personality, and a sick sister. I am constantly moving from one household to another-- my parents have been divorced for over 10 years. I do well socially and academically, but good is never good enough. My sister is so lively and vibrant, but struggles with Juvenile diabetes. Sometimes, I feel as though I live in a life that I don't belong.
Life can feel pretty surreal, and it's easy to lose touch with reality when you're in the dark. We are faced with disease and depression and stress and other misfortunes. Without proper shelter, it is easy to feel vulnerable in a battle we must fight on our own. So when looking upon a house, you may see a strong foundation with built- up walls, but remember to consider what lies within.
I, a white female, come from a household of two well to- do parents-- both doctors. My one sibling is my companion and best friend. From the outside looking in, my life must be perfect. I have a roof over my head, eat four meals a day, attend a private school and stay involved in events within the community of East Providence. What others cannot see is the crumbling relationship between my parents, my Type- A personality, and a sick sister. I am constantly moving from one household to another-- my parents have been divorced for over 10 years. I do well socially and academically, but good is never good enough. My sister is so lively and vibrant, but struggles with Juvenile diabetes. Sometimes, I feel as though I live in a life that I don't belong.
Life can feel pretty surreal, and it's easy to lose touch with reality when you're in the dark. We are faced with disease and depression and stress and other misfortunes. Without proper shelter, it is easy to feel vulnerable in a battle we must fight on our own. So when looking upon a house, you may see a strong foundation with built- up walls, but remember to consider what lies within.
Wednesday, October 28, 2015
Advocacy vs. Activism
Although the words "activism" and "advocacy" are often used interchangeably, there is an acute distinction between the two. In Malcolm Gladwell's, "Small Change" advocacy within social networking is criticized. Gladwell compares our present day form of "activism" to the civil- rights movements of the 1960s.
The author sets the scene by describing in Woolworth's protest in Greensboro, North Carolina. Local African- American students were denied service at a lunch counter. As a crowd gathered, a protest formed. Each day, the crowd grew larger. Sit- ins had spread miles beyond Greensboro, along with the spirit of activism. Men and women of all ages and ethnic backgrounds came together as brave advocates; they united for a common cause.
This movement of the 60's was achieved without the use of cell phones, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. "Social networks are effective at increasing participation-- by lessening the level of motivation participation requires," says the author. Today, our idea of advocacy is "liking" a Facebook page. We consider ourselves activist by using a hashtag. Our brave façade is hidden behind the screen of a laptop and our most extensive form of action happens to be typing upon a keyboard.
So where have we gone wrong? Our generation has been taught to use social media as a tool of communication. "The platforms of social media are built around weak ties," Gladwell points out. As we continue to gain followers, our knowledge of the world expands, and we feel an obligation to "pick a side" in every trivial matter.
Despite our communication, our lack of organization and central leadership limits our effectiveness. The author sheds light upon possibilities as to why social media has become such an ineffective instrument of change. Gladwell writes, "Because networks don't have a centralized leadership structure and clear lines of authority, they have real difficulty reaching consensus and setting goals." The structure of networking makes it nearly impossible to make each individual accountable. We have no central authority, and therefore have one to answer to but ourselves. In this way, giving up or quitting is what causes our fervor to fizzle out.
Social media has made us handicaps. We lack belief in our convictions; we are influenced by groups around us, constructed by weak ties. With only ourselves to answer to, we lack the motivation to find a passion. False advocates have replaced our fervent activists.
The author sets the scene by describing in Woolworth's protest in Greensboro, North Carolina. Local African- American students were denied service at a lunch counter. As a crowd gathered, a protest formed. Each day, the crowd grew larger. Sit- ins had spread miles beyond Greensboro, along with the spirit of activism. Men and women of all ages and ethnic backgrounds came together as brave advocates; they united for a common cause.
This movement of the 60's was achieved without the use of cell phones, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. "Social networks are effective at increasing participation-- by lessening the level of motivation participation requires," says the author. Today, our idea of advocacy is "liking" a Facebook page. We consider ourselves activist by using a hashtag. Our brave façade is hidden behind the screen of a laptop and our most extensive form of action happens to be typing upon a keyboard.
So where have we gone wrong? Our generation has been taught to use social media as a tool of communication. "The platforms of social media are built around weak ties," Gladwell points out. As we continue to gain followers, our knowledge of the world expands, and we feel an obligation to "pick a side" in every trivial matter.
Despite our communication, our lack of organization and central leadership limits our effectiveness. The author sheds light upon possibilities as to why social media has become such an ineffective instrument of change. Gladwell writes, "Because networks don't have a centralized leadership structure and clear lines of authority, they have real difficulty reaching consensus and setting goals." The structure of networking makes it nearly impossible to make each individual accountable. We have no central authority, and therefore have one to answer to but ourselves. In this way, giving up or quitting is what causes our fervor to fizzle out.
Social media has made us handicaps. We lack belief in our convictions; we are influenced by groups around us, constructed by weak ties. With only ourselves to answer to, we lack the motivation to find a passion. False advocates have replaced our fervent activists.
Monday, October 26, 2015
The New Yorker
The New Yorker is known to publish clever political cartoons and drawings relevant to current events. Its issue published the week of Oct. 12, 2015, is no exception. The cover depicts a grand hotel, stretching high into the skyline. Guarding the doors are two bellhops who seemingly tower over all that walks among the city streets.
I have been to New York a couple times as a young girl, however my memory limits me from drawing forth clear imagery. The wonder of this sleepless city is not completely foreign to me; it is nearly impossible to escape. The glamorous life of a city- goer is glamorized in just about every rap, pop, and rock song. Diamonds from Tiffany, Loubouton heels, Versace suits, Gucci bags-- let's face it: money is power. We want to be these people; the holders of social credibility, financial security, and pure hapinesss. When I think of New York, I think of social, political, and economic dominance. I do not think of cracked pavement and crumbling starues, but glistening sky scrapers that seem to shine like gold. Even workers of the big corporations and brand names even seem to hold an advantage; by association, they become powerful.
By reflecting deeply on this cover page of The New Yorker, a new vision is born. I put myself in the streets of the city. I am just a girl, lost among the crowds. I feel weakened; lost. I am an outsider. The true New Yorkers hold the power, and I am beneath them. The corporate world engulfs me, and I am trapped. Truly, the glamour only exists within my ignorance. My imagination has now been tainted by all the corruption. This luxury I once dreamed of is now my worst nightmare.
I have been to New York a couple times as a young girl, however my memory limits me from drawing forth clear imagery. The wonder of this sleepless city is not completely foreign to me; it is nearly impossible to escape. The glamorous life of a city- goer is glamorized in just about every rap, pop, and rock song. Diamonds from Tiffany, Loubouton heels, Versace suits, Gucci bags-- let's face it: money is power. We want to be these people; the holders of social credibility, financial security, and pure hapinesss. When I think of New York, I think of social, political, and economic dominance. I do not think of cracked pavement and crumbling starues, but glistening sky scrapers that seem to shine like gold. Even workers of the big corporations and brand names even seem to hold an advantage; by association, they become powerful.
By reflecting deeply on this cover page of The New Yorker, a new vision is born. I put myself in the streets of the city. I am just a girl, lost among the crowds. I feel weakened; lost. I am an outsider. The true New Yorkers hold the power, and I am beneath them. The corporate world engulfs me, and I am trapped. Truly, the glamour only exists within my ignorance. My imagination has now been tainted by all the corruption. This luxury I once dreamed of is now my worst nightmare.
Wednesday, October 21, 2015
A Bad Feminist
Feminism can be defined as economic, political, and social equality to men. While it is not unreasonable to question why women earn 77% of what men do, the movement has become an a completely obscene way to condemn the entire male population. There are many ideals of what a feminist should be; identifying as such comes with its negative connotations. The term itself is associated with man hating, angry, militant women who don't shave. I try to steer clear of any feminist related rally or tumblr post, and I am partially ashamed.
Gay states, "...these articles tell me that there's no way for women to ever get it right... it [seems] like there is, in fact, a right way to be a woman and a wrong way to be a woman". This is a movement that deems women as failures for not being "passionate" enough. The exclusiveness reminds me of a Mean Girls movie; you're in, or you're irrelevant.
In her essay collection Bad Feminist, Roxane Gay writes, "I fall short as a feminist. I feel like I am not as committed as I need to be...". She goes on to describe the essentials principles in being an "ideal" feminist. Finally-- a woman brave enough to speak out. For so long, I felt like less of a woman, merely because I do in fact like boys. I love the color pink; it's my favorite. I adore make up and getting dressed up. I take selfies. I have a playlist dedicated completely to hard- core rap. None of this makes me any less of a woman. I believe in women's rights and the equality of the sexes, so why is it not enough?
A key message in Gay's article is this: You can be who ever you are and be a feminist. You're to allowed to read Vogue and it's okay to binge- watch Keeping Up with the Kardashians. This is because we are entitled to our likes and dislikes. All human beings depend on someone every now and then; we're not super human. Gay explains the struggle when taking her car to the mechanic. Because she knows nothing about cars, it seems as though these men are speaking in a foreign language. From what I understand, this does not make her a failure of a woman, it makes her human. This dilemma goes both ways-- one cannot argue that women are expected to be completely independent while a majority of the male population lacks the ability to cook a plate scrambled eggs.
In order to achieve unity and equality among the sexes, I believe we must put our differences aside and simply stop blaming the opposite sex for every opposition we face. With condemnation comes tension, and tension only adds fuel to the flame of gender equality that has been burning since the beginning of time. Call me a bad feminist, but I believe in a balance.
Gay states, "...these articles tell me that there's no way for women to ever get it right... it [seems] like there is, in fact, a right way to be a woman and a wrong way to be a woman". This is a movement that deems women as failures for not being "passionate" enough. The exclusiveness reminds me of a Mean Girls movie; you're in, or you're irrelevant.
In her essay collection Bad Feminist, Roxane Gay writes, "I fall short as a feminist. I feel like I am not as committed as I need to be...". She goes on to describe the essentials principles in being an "ideal" feminist. Finally-- a woman brave enough to speak out. For so long, I felt like less of a woman, merely because I do in fact like boys. I love the color pink; it's my favorite. I adore make up and getting dressed up. I take selfies. I have a playlist dedicated completely to hard- core rap. None of this makes me any less of a woman. I believe in women's rights and the equality of the sexes, so why is it not enough?
A key message in Gay's article is this: You can be who ever you are and be a feminist. You're to allowed to read Vogue and it's okay to binge- watch Keeping Up with the Kardashians. This is because we are entitled to our likes and dislikes. All human beings depend on someone every now and then; we're not super human. Gay explains the struggle when taking her car to the mechanic. Because she knows nothing about cars, it seems as though these men are speaking in a foreign language. From what I understand, this does not make her a failure of a woman, it makes her human. This dilemma goes both ways-- one cannot argue that women are expected to be completely independent while a majority of the male population lacks the ability to cook a plate scrambled eggs.
In order to achieve unity and equality among the sexes, I believe we must put our differences aside and simply stop blaming the opposite sex for every opposition we face. With condemnation comes tension, and tension only adds fuel to the flame of gender equality that has been burning since the beginning of time. Call me a bad feminist, but I believe in a balance.
Sunday, October 18, 2015
Disney Haters
Disney fairytales have played a significant role in the lives of children worldwide. Audiences of all ages find themselves captivated by the idea of a happily ever after. Could this ideology pose a threat to "the young, the ignorant, and the idle"? Deborah Ross, in her article titled, Escape from Wonderland: Disney and the Female Imagination, writes of the dangerous nature of imagination, contradictory acts of feminism, and the politics linked to the Disney cooperation itself. She does this by closely examining several classics, including The Little Mermaid, exposing the transparency within the plots.
Ross claims that Disney stories result in woman and young girls fantasizing of a world more vivid and exciting than their own, leading them to feel entitled and socially displaced. Fairytale story lines encourage youth to defy their adolescent self- will to embark upon adventure, personal growth, love and lust. To exemplify this, the writing recalls the character of Ariel who dreams of life on dry land were "fathers do not reprimand their daughters". The lack of realism imposes an unfair advantage upon the children who receive these ideologies and take them to hearts they encounter quests of their own-- soon they may be wondering what happened to their happy ending.
Strong female roles are criticized as Ross questions why our beloved Disney princesses break the bounds of "traditional femininity" just to settle for marriage. Ariel's anthem of independence is contrasted by her narrow desire to experience land, mainly to acquire a male figure whom she is already enamored with. "Ariel imagines this other world as in a sense more her own... she believes it to be a utopia of free movement... for 'jumping' and 'dancing' and strolling,' and only secondarily for marrying," Ross states. A world so full of possibility is abandoned as she decides to become submissive and settle. The idea of independence is negated by the need for companionship.
The identical storylines presented in different variations exploit Disney's "reluctance to embrace imagination with both arms". Ross claims the cooperation's false claim to political affiliation continues to grow, influencing public tastes and culture itself. The encouragement of individuality is broken by the inescapable homogeneity of our childhood favorites.
While these ideas withstand close examination, Ross attempts to get her point across in a manner that is rather crass. The authorial tone of her article is quite disappointing; who enjoys being told their childhood was merely full of propaganda and hidden politics? As much as the reader would like to disprove of these examples of contradiction, the harsh reality of the matter is that we have in fact grown up under the impression of false hope.
In order to be more persuasive I believe Ross should have presented her ideas in a manner less, dare I say, dream- crushing. Rather than shattering every enjoyable moment of our adolescence, I would offer less pessimism. Although it is true that our favorite princesses abandoned their dreams by settling, I ask, why must we do the same? Our lives are not in fact Disney movies; the unrealistic fairytale endings have proven this valid. Don't let neither cookie- cuter story lines nor Disney haters keep you from commencing your vey own adventures and pursuing the lifestyle of your dreams.
Ross claims that Disney stories result in woman and young girls fantasizing of a world more vivid and exciting than their own, leading them to feel entitled and socially displaced. Fairytale story lines encourage youth to defy their adolescent self- will to embark upon adventure, personal growth, love and lust. To exemplify this, the writing recalls the character of Ariel who dreams of life on dry land were "fathers do not reprimand their daughters". The lack of realism imposes an unfair advantage upon the children who receive these ideologies and take them to hearts they encounter quests of their own-- soon they may be wondering what happened to their happy ending.
Strong female roles are criticized as Ross questions why our beloved Disney princesses break the bounds of "traditional femininity" just to settle for marriage. Ariel's anthem of independence is contrasted by her narrow desire to experience land, mainly to acquire a male figure whom she is already enamored with. "Ariel imagines this other world as in a sense more her own... she believes it to be a utopia of free movement... for 'jumping' and 'dancing' and strolling,' and only secondarily for marrying," Ross states. A world so full of possibility is abandoned as she decides to become submissive and settle. The idea of independence is negated by the need for companionship.
The identical storylines presented in different variations exploit Disney's "reluctance to embrace imagination with both arms". Ross claims the cooperation's false claim to political affiliation continues to grow, influencing public tastes and culture itself. The encouragement of individuality is broken by the inescapable homogeneity of our childhood favorites.
While these ideas withstand close examination, Ross attempts to get her point across in a manner that is rather crass. The authorial tone of her article is quite disappointing; who enjoys being told their childhood was merely full of propaganda and hidden politics? As much as the reader would like to disprove of these examples of contradiction, the harsh reality of the matter is that we have in fact grown up under the impression of false hope.
In order to be more persuasive I believe Ross should have presented her ideas in a manner less, dare I say, dream- crushing. Rather than shattering every enjoyable moment of our adolescence, I would offer less pessimism. Although it is true that our favorite princesses abandoned their dreams by settling, I ask, why must we do the same? Our lives are not in fact Disney movies; the unrealistic fairytale endings have proven this valid. Don't let neither cookie- cuter story lines nor Disney haters keep you from commencing your vey own adventures and pursuing the lifestyle of your dreams.
Wednesday, October 14, 2015
Acceptance Needed for LGBT Community
**DISCLAIMER** I myself do not identify as an LGBT Teen, so I do hope my viewpoints or standings in the matter are not taken to offense; I wish not to speak hypocritically. By using pronouns such as "they" or "them" when referring to this community it is not my intention to create any boundary or distinction between myself and those who identify as Lesbian/ Gay/ Bisexual/ or Transgender. With that being said, I invite those who are willing to read on with open hearts, and open minds.
Acceptance of the LGBT community has undoubtedly been a hot- button issue in our society today. As United States citizens our natural born rights include those of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. If this remains true, then why must some face so much segregation; so much condemnation; so much pain? World leaders claim to seek equality, but have a knack for picking and choosing who deserves to be treated like an actual human being.
To façade a moral absence, many tack their artificial values in accordance with religion. Some are forbidden from eating pork; others are required to wear special clothing. Whose religious values claim they cannot associate with anyone of a varied sexual orientation? It is because of this reason that we are made to choose between religion and individuality. The outcasted LGBT community is ostracized from a majority of our christian communities, allegedly offering a safe haven for all of God's children. Instead, they are frowned upon.
These ideologies have permeated beyond our legislature and religious groups however. The practice of discrimination is present in our homes, and in our schools. Statistics show that in 2011 64% of teens felt unsafe at school due to their sexual orientation (nobullying.com). A shocking 44% have been physically assaulted. It is also not uncommon to find similar domestic settings. Teens feel the need to hide their true identity from parents and siblings. According to PFLAG NYC, LGBT youths are three times more likely to be rejected by family member than teenage substance abusers. As a result, these teens are left homeless, with no where to go.
So what can we do to help? I hope by the time you are finished reading this you feel convicted reach out and welcome the struggling teens with open arms. Whether it is organizing a youth group, standing up for those who are bullied, or simply speaking kind words, your support matters. Take a stand against LGBT discrimination; be a beacon of light in a world of moral darkness.
Acceptance of the LGBT community has undoubtedly been a hot- button issue in our society today. As United States citizens our natural born rights include those of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. If this remains true, then why must some face so much segregation; so much condemnation; so much pain? World leaders claim to seek equality, but have a knack for picking and choosing who deserves to be treated like an actual human being.
To façade a moral absence, many tack their artificial values in accordance with religion. Some are forbidden from eating pork; others are required to wear special clothing. Whose religious values claim they cannot associate with anyone of a varied sexual orientation? It is because of this reason that we are made to choose between religion and individuality. The outcasted LGBT community is ostracized from a majority of our christian communities, allegedly offering a safe haven for all of God's children. Instead, they are frowned upon.
These ideologies have permeated beyond our legislature and religious groups however. The practice of discrimination is present in our homes, and in our schools. Statistics show that in 2011 64% of teens felt unsafe at school due to their sexual orientation (nobullying.com). A shocking 44% have been physically assaulted. It is also not uncommon to find similar domestic settings. Teens feel the need to hide their true identity from parents and siblings. According to PFLAG NYC, LGBT youths are three times more likely to be rejected by family member than teenage substance abusers. As a result, these teens are left homeless, with no where to go.
So what can we do to help? I hope by the time you are finished reading this you feel convicted reach out and welcome the struggling teens with open arms. Whether it is organizing a youth group, standing up for those who are bullied, or simply speaking kind words, your support matters. Take a stand against LGBT discrimination; be a beacon of light in a world of moral darkness.
Thursday, October 8, 2015
Standardize Testing
It is currently uncommon to see young students opting out of taking standardize test. It is no wonder that these children choose to do so; test taking takes both a physical and emotional toll on those who are scored. In addition to illness such as anxiety induced vomiting and nausea, test takers are also left questioning their intelligence. This is due to the idea that an individual's worth is tied to a test score. These assessments should be a reflection of achievement. Originally created to increase our national academic rank, standardize testing has become more of a battle than a reflection of basic knowledge and comprehension skills. President George W. Bush's "No Child Left Behind" campaign tripled the amount of test taking in the United States. In order to fix this problem, we must all either come to agree on the disadvantages standardize tests have provided our schools with, nationwide, or choose to ignore the damages. With so many red flags, such as test scorers found on Craigslist or quotas given to grade these exams, we must take a stand. While some may argue that standardize test taking is proven to increase our adaptability and provide classrooms with a "healthy sense of competition", our scores have shown a significant decrease from when this "test taking boom" began in the 90's. More and more students are taking stand against standardize testing. As a student myself, I believe it is the responsibility of other educators and political leaders to follow suit in order to maintain a sense of national academic dignity and pride.
Sunday, October 4, 2015
Introverts, Extroverts, and the Amniverts
Most people consider themselves as either an introvert, or an extrovert... But what ever happened to those who fall in between? While are aware of the differences between the two, we refuse to acknowledge any ambiguity. The forgotten ones who share characteristics of both are called Amniverts.
Ignorance brings negativity when searching for a category to fall under. It can be stressful identifying as one or the other; you are forced to choose between black or white. Educating others of the Amnivert existence can break the tension associated with this decision. Why must we choose between being a people person or enjoying solitude? It is necessary to both mingle and have essential reflection time.
Susan Cain argues that educators should impose less group work among children to encourage independent creativity. Students are forced to work within a generic environment that is not tailored to incorporate each individual's learning preference. Introducing a balance between the two may bring an increase in work productivity.
Extroverts, Introverts, and Amniverts all contribute to our society in some way. Some of our best writers and creative thinkers are Introverts. Extroverts are wonderful event planners. Amniverts however are not given nearly as much recognition as they deserve. Did you know that they are considered to make the best salespeople? A study conducted by Adam Grant of the University of Pennsylvania's Wharton School of Management shows that Amniverts "tend to be adept at the quality of attunemet" (danpink.com).
Which ever personality type you choose to identify as, ask yourself if you are among the overlooked Aminiverts.
Ignorance brings negativity when searching for a category to fall under. It can be stressful identifying as one or the other; you are forced to choose between black or white. Educating others of the Amnivert existence can break the tension associated with this decision. Why must we choose between being a people person or enjoying solitude? It is necessary to both mingle and have essential reflection time.
Susan Cain argues that educators should impose less group work among children to encourage independent creativity. Students are forced to work within a generic environment that is not tailored to incorporate each individual's learning preference. Introducing a balance between the two may bring an increase in work productivity.
Extroverts, Introverts, and Amniverts all contribute to our society in some way. Some of our best writers and creative thinkers are Introverts. Extroverts are wonderful event planners. Amniverts however are not given nearly as much recognition as they deserve. Did you know that they are considered to make the best salespeople? A study conducted by Adam Grant of the University of Pennsylvania's Wharton School of Management shows that Amniverts "tend to be adept at the quality of attunemet" (danpink.com).
Which ever personality type you choose to identify as, ask yourself if you are among the overlooked Aminiverts.
Friday, October 2, 2015
SCWAMP
The acronym SCWAMP represents the today's culture of power.
S- Straightness
C- Christianity
W- Whiteness
A- Able bodied
M- Maleness
P- Property holder
These ideals can be spotted all around us in media, pop- culture, politics, work, and school. We have been influenced by this preconceived mold of superiority before the time we could speak. It is no surprise that examples of SCWAMP can easily be detected in our favorite Disney childhood movies. Take the story of Pocahontas for example. John Smith is a white male who belongs to the Massachusetts Bay Company, (which was granted a charter by King James I to set up colonies or property in the Americas). Originating from the Anglican Church of England John Smith happens to be of Christian faith. He acts as a leader of the MBC to help perform manual labor-- indicating that he is able bodied. Lastly, we see that John Smith falls in love with Pocahontas; therefore, it is safe to assume he is straight.
Think of what you consider your privileges to be, and compare them to what it means to be privileged in society today. I challenge you to become more aware of these ideologies, and find your own examples of SCWAMP; it may be easier than you think.
S- Straightness
C- Christianity
W- Whiteness
A- Able bodied
M- Maleness
P- Property holder
These ideals can be spotted all around us in media, pop- culture, politics, work, and school. We have been influenced by this preconceived mold of superiority before the time we could speak. It is no surprise that examples of SCWAMP can easily be detected in our favorite Disney childhood movies. Take the story of Pocahontas for example. John Smith is a white male who belongs to the Massachusetts Bay Company, (which was granted a charter by King James I to set up colonies or property in the Americas). Originating from the Anglican Church of England John Smith happens to be of Christian faith. He acts as a leader of the MBC to help perform manual labor-- indicating that he is able bodied. Lastly, we see that John Smith falls in love with Pocahontas; therefore, it is safe to assume he is straight.
Think of what you consider your privileges to be, and compare them to what it means to be privileged in society today. I challenge you to become more aware of these ideologies, and find your own examples of SCWAMP; it may be easier than you think.
Tuesday, September 29, 2015
This Is Me
At some point in our lives, each person must come to recognize their individuality. When asking ourselves "Who am I?" we must dig deep within ourselves and pick apart the pieces that form our being. With that said, I like to take the time to appreciate who I am.
My name is Arabella DiSanto, but I prefer going by Bella. I am of Italian, Romanian, German and Polish heritage. I would love to learn to speak Italian, although I have been taking Spanish lessons for 12 years. I have I knack for learning languages. To me, the study of other cultures are fascinating. Some day, I would love to travel and explore the world-- visiting new places, trying strange foods, meeting interesting people. Something I am passionate about is makeup. I believe in the power of inner beauty; it is so invigorating to feel confident. Makeup is not just about looking and feeling fierce, but it is also a form of art expression. I hope to find a career in the business of cosmetology to help share this passion with others.
I love to see smiles and make others laugh. Corny jokes and dry puns are probably what make my world go round. I firmly believe laughter is the best medicine. Life is too short to sweat small stuff like a low test grade or a bad hair day. By finding joy in the small stuff, we find strength-- our reasons to live. It is important to be self- aware, but do not lose sight of your surroundings. Our passions, battles and other experiences shape who we are. What we choose to do with life's opportunities show character. Some choices require more strength than others, so please, never stop fighting. Continue to find yourself and grow with each new day.
My name is Arabella DiSanto, but I prefer going by Bella. I am of Italian, Romanian, German and Polish heritage. I would love to learn to speak Italian, although I have been taking Spanish lessons for 12 years. I have I knack for learning languages. To me, the study of other cultures are fascinating. Some day, I would love to travel and explore the world-- visiting new places, trying strange foods, meeting interesting people. Something I am passionate about is makeup. I believe in the power of inner beauty; it is so invigorating to feel confident. Makeup is not just about looking and feeling fierce, but it is also a form of art expression. I hope to find a career in the business of cosmetology to help share this passion with others.
I love to see smiles and make others laugh. Corny jokes and dry puns are probably what make my world go round. I firmly believe laughter is the best medicine. Life is too short to sweat small stuff like a low test grade or a bad hair day. By finding joy in the small stuff, we find strength-- our reasons to live. It is important to be self- aware, but do not lose sight of your surroundings. Our passions, battles and other experiences shape who we are. What we choose to do with life's opportunities show character. Some choices require more strength than others, so please, never stop fighting. Continue to find yourself and grow with each new day.
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